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Thursday, October 16, 2014

Believing I can Believe in Myself


Yesterday Sean Anderson from The Daily Diary of a Winning Loser  posted about believing in yourself. Believing in myself is something I have a lot of trouble with, and I commented as such on his post, asking "How do we get past that?" Sean had this to say:

In my opinion-- the answer is in taking small steps toward what you desire. You don't need belief at first-- but you do need perseverance and a "never give up" attitude to stay in the game. Take it small, take it slow--then, as you go--your belief will strengthen, Connie. I think we must let go of the idea that we need it all perfect before we can proceed. We simply must proceed in the direction and at the speed we can handle at the time...then watch it grow and develop... You'll be believing in yourself before you realize that's what's happening!

Thanks, Sean! I really like this because it goes along with what I was saying about that Thoreau quote that inspired me to start this blog: "Go confidently in the direction of your dreams." It's the whole it's not about the destination; it's the journey thing.

Even if I don't fully believe in myself right now, I can still put one foot in front of the other. I can still move forward. I can still walk to Walden Pond, even if I don't actually reach Walden Pond. You know what I mean?

Last night I had McDonald's for dinner. My daughter had made dinner, but...umm...let's just say it was a nice effort. I didn't have anything fast and easy for back up, and we were starving. So now I know, always have something fast in the freezer to make up for dinner mishaps. I had a burger and fries. I know I should have had a salad, but I'd had a salad for lunch, and I didn't want another one for dinner and listen to me whine and make excuses blah blah blah. I should have had a salad, full stop.

Tonight I'm trying a new recipe myself. I will have something for back up in case it doesn't workout. I am inspired. I can do this thing!

Oh, and I brought my gym clothes to work today. Smiley Face

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  1. Connie, keep being inspired and having a plan. Baby steps is where I'm at as well and it's better than no steps at all. Good luck with your recipe, I've had a couple of mishaps with some I have tried recently :)

  2. If ya gotta go to McDonalds, and can't stomach another salad, get a double burger, and remove the bun, and then crumble that on top of the salad. It will feel and taste more substantial. ;) Sure, the sodium will be high, and there is no doubt there are grains in those Micky D burgers, but still, better than a burger with its buns, and fries. ;)

    Re believing in ourselves...as I said to Sean, sometimes we have to start by 'faking it until we make it'. We have to take the steps that seem like we believe in ourselves, even if they don't feel comfortable or real at first, if that makes sense. And he's right about baby steps in the beginning, and not expecting perfection. Two steps forward, one step back is STILL going forward. :)

  3. Progress! Hope you had a good workout. I believe in you too... sometimes we have to grab onto each other to be lifted up when we have a hard time believing in ourselves. You have helped me with your comments and I am here for you!

  4. I don't have any words of wisdom for you - that believing in yourself stuff is hard, but crucial.

    When I started this journey of mine, I wasn't even sure I knew HOW to believe in myself. There's always such a funky feeling that's associated with it for me.

    And you hear it all the time, the bullshit line of - One day at a time - but dammit - it's really true. Then the next day, little by little.

    You'll find a lot of support, but the biggest support of all is really you supporting YOU and not just believing, but KNOWING you can do it.

    And remember, you're not on a fucking timeline - Your body, your pace - doesn't matter what the path is so long as it's forward!